The elephant needs to be addressed!
Let’s just go ahead and address the elephant in the room and acknowledge the fact that the last relationship had you feeling like “dang they might actually be the one that God has for me,” but then you realized that it was all just a hoax. Like, ladies I know you were ready for the day he would propose so you could start planning a wedding, and gentlemen I know you were probably going to this time stop searching and settle down with the woman who you felt was your queen; am I right? I mean everything was going so well, but just when you thought it was a blessing, you then find out that the relationship that once had you on cloud nine, now has you wishing that you never crossed paths with them in the first place. There, the elephant in the room has now been addressed and it’s time for him to leave because he’s blocking healing. I will be honest and say that I was so hurt by this guy in my last relationship, that I asked God a ton of questions that mainly started with “Why!” I wanted to know “why this happened, why did that happen, why did he lie, and most importantly, why did it all have to happen to me?” Don’t get me wrong there were signs that were revealing to me that he wasn’t the one, but I would always convince myself that maybe it was my imagination or that I was thinking too much into it. But whenever you have an iffy feeling about someone do not ignore all the signs, because the devil isn’t always the one out here trying to block a blessing. Sometimes it’s God trying to show you what’s really going on in order to save your life. I kept convincing myself that God will settle me out, however as time progressed, He kept revealing to me that this guy wasn’t the one that He had designed for me. Let’s be honest, we can act like we are hard of hearing when we hear a “no” from God, especially when you feel like you have invested so much time into a person and yes this guy that I’ll just name James (sorry if you are reading this and your name is James) did something that completely broke my heart, I was willing to forgive, in hopes that God will use us as a testimony. But God was probably up in heaven like “Girl trust me this isn’t the story you want to tell.” Who knows what else would have been revealed and to be truthfully honest, I can sincerely say that God removed him just in time! To the men who just might read this, I don’t want you to think that I don’t understand that you all go through some tough mishaps in relationships and that this is just another story of #allmencheat chronicles; NO, women can be a hot mess too sometimes! But keep this in mind and remember that Jesus saw the hurt and pain that you had to go through. This goes for EVERYONE READING THIS POST! Just because someone came into the relationship without a proper vision of a relationship does not mean that the person God has for you will never come. He wants you to trust Him and understand that you might have never reached your full potential had you stayed in that toxic relationship. I think that we often forget that God sees what is happening when we are not around the person. Ladies He knew that man in your life that everybody spoke so highly of was telling more lies than Pinocchio and would only corrupt your life. And to the men, God knew that the woman you were in relationship with was not going to be a helpmate to you, instead she was a destroyer of kings. Most of the time it doesn’t have to be anything drastic, it could simply be that the person who you were dating was just not for you. Bottom line is God knew what was going on and truth be told, sometimes we know something is not right ourselves. I know I did, but it’s something about when the truth is brought to the light and there is confirmation from more than one person that makes us want to fully believe. Just remember that God’s timing is always perfect and even though you had many nights of crying, feeling angry, and many questions beginning with “Why,” you will one day realize that there was so much purpose in your pain.
Our Scripture reading for today comes from……
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 – “ TO EVERYTHING there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven: A time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to pluck up what is planted, A time to kill and a time to heal, a time to break down and a time to build up, A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to cast away stones and a time to gather stones together, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, A time to get and a time to lose, a time to keep and a time to cast away, A time to rend and a time to sew, a time to keep silence and a time to speak, A time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.” AMP
Always remember you are Blooming for Christ and that God has someone here on this Earth that is specifically designed for you and only you!